They say that art imitates life. I say that life imitates our personal spaces. If you came into my house, you would see that most everything looks to be fairly orderly. There are a few random piles of “to do” items on my desk and the kitchen counter. But overall, most things are where they should be.
But take a look inside a couple drawers, or a random closet, and things get a wee bit more chaotic! You know that proverbial “junk” drawer…yeah, I have about three of those in my kitchen! That is pretty reflective of my life, organized on the surface but underneath there’s a bit of quasi-organized chaos happening.
I have learned that every six months or so I need to do a purge in my house. I go through my drawers and closets and get rid of the stuff that I don’t really want, need or use…or know how to use.
Ok, so I’ve kept my iron even though I don’t want it, need it and some would argue I don’t know how to use it. One little burned shirt collar and people lose their minds!
I get rid of things because if I don’t, I have no space for the things that I really do enjoy. If I just keep trying to cram more stuff in, I lose track of what is there.
Life and relationships behave in a similar way. If we just keep trying to add things in, we will become overwhelmed, our mental and emotional closets bursting at the seams. We keep holding onto situations or people that we need to release.
It can be very difficult to do this because we keep thinking that maybe it will change. Maybe acid wash jeans will come back into style too, but even if they do would you want to wear them again? Sometimes you have to say, time to move on.
When we are willing to release, and to say no to things that just bog us down, then we have room to welcome the really good stuff that is waiting. If you find yourself saying, “maybe” or “I’ll think about it,” when you really want to say ‘’no” you need to take a step back.
Learning to say no doesn’t mean you are being selfish, it means you honor yourself. We worry about judgment, but that is just our ego trying to keep us living in the emotion of fear. Step out into the emotion of love.
By clearing space that is what you are doing. You are getting rid of the things that are only serving to block your path to love. Fill your life with things you love, experiences you love, and people you love. If your mental and emotional closets are filled with those, you’ll always be in style.