Alicia Keyes belted the anthem “This girl is on fire”. It tells us that we don’t have to back down, that we can be on top of the world. A great empowerment song, but it is good advice?
There’s a lot of chatter about being on fire, getting it done, and succeeding. There’s also a lot of talk about feeling burned out. We are exhausted, frazzled and living in a fog.
Is it coincidence that we are told to be on fire, and then end up burned out?!?!?
There is nothing wrong with being on fire, if we are on fire with things that we are passionate about. To keep fire burning, there has to be something breathing life and air into it. If we are on fire with activities that don’t give us that life, then we will inevitably burn out. That’s science.
Many of us have set ourselves on fire because we feel obligated, or because others aren’t keeping their own fires lit…so we take it upon ourselves to burn ourselves a bit more to keep them warm.
This mindset ultimately serves no one well. We burn out, and others never figure out how to fuel their own fires. Basically, we’ve handicapped them and forgotten to tend our personal fire with self-love. Our flame is out and all that’s left is fried out, smoldering pile.
The solution is taking care of our own fire first. If we burn out, we can’t be a light to anything else in life. Fires that burn strong can ignite other fires, rather than be the only flame.
Take an inventory of what you are doing that fans your fire, and what dumps buckets of water on your fire. Start moving those bucket activities out of your life, then fill that space with fire fans.
A woman that is on fire with passion and self-love is the most beautiful flame to behold.