Before you all think I’m looney tunes yes I know Zelda isn’t an actual person…fine lines between schizophrenia and ego…lol.
The reason I named her is because it helps me to remember that “I” am not Zelda.
“I” do not have to listen to her, and “I” have the power to send her into timeout as necessary.
So, Zelda is that voice of fear, worry, and doubt that plays in my head. The voice of ego.
Zelda loves her job and she’s really good at it. It is a pretty cushy position. I mean really, she basically gets to sit around buffing her nails and talking smack in my head.
Can anyone else identify with some of these favorite Zeldaisms?
“I eat like a cow.”
“I’m such a lard butt.”
“I hate that I can’t get myself together.”
“I’m such a loser.”
“I am the worst mom.”
I can raise my hand and say that I honestly have said all those things about myself at some point. I struggled for years with feeling like I was just half-assing my way through life. And Zelda was more than happy to confirm those feelings to me. Here’s how it would play out….
“Yep, you just ate a pint of ice cream…you are indeed a cow. And now you will for sure have a lard butt, in addition to thunder thighs, nice job. Seriously girl you are a hot mess, you’re never going to get your shit together. And congratulations on forgetting to pick the kids up from soccer today, excellent mom move. I’m sure they won’t be damaged from that.”
Here’s the massive problem that Zelda creates.
She puts us into a state of war with ourselves. Every. Freaking. Day.
The things Zelda says represent our fear, anger, sadness, sorrow and most of all incredible pain.
But what if we could try a new approach…
What if we could learn to treat ourselves with love and appreciation. Acknowledging that we are doing the very best we can. That we should be proud of journey, proud of every single step we take toward progress.
Here are 4 things to STOP doing that will put Zelda in timeout:
1) Stop being in a “battle” to lose weight.
2) Stop buying into the concept that success means getting out there and “crushing it.”
3) Stop believing that pain must be part of the process.
4) Stop comparing your everyday reality to someone else’s highlight reel.
All of these things stimulate the fight mentality. Fighting is incredibly draining, it gets old, it isn’t enjoyable.
If we approach doing things from a place of love, that is incredibly fulfilling.
Strive to lose weight because you love yourself and want to be healthy, not because you hate your butt.
Be successful by getting into the flow of life and seeing how it can unfold in amazing ways, not by clawing your way to the top.
Shift your perceptions. What once might have seemed painful can now be seen as opportunity, or even growth.
Love will always bring you more. Fear will always take away.
If you’re ready to shut Zelda up and begin the journey to loving yourself toward a better body and mental strength, let’s talk. There’s no obligation and no judgment, just an opportunity to talk about where you’re at. If it seems like we are a good fit, we’ll talk about how I can guide you and you’ll walk away with at least one golden nugget for yourself. Click here and enter CHAT TIME in the subject line, easy peasy.