In my work I have a lot of women start their journey with me feeling like they have been beaten up by life, overwhelmed, and struggling to find answers. They’ve been on a rollercoaster that has at times left them feeling defeated, that they’ve failed, or that they just can’t freaking figure out the answers.
Many of them have suffered losses that have sent them reeling. A divorce, the death or a parent, sibling, or friend, or the inevitable shift in relationship status with their growing children.
It’s often grief and sorrow they bear in addition to physical weight.
But here’s one thing they also all have in common…hope.
Inside they have a small flame, an inner knowledge that they cannot give up on themselves. They instinctively know that life can be different , and they aren’t willing to stop trying.
This is why I’m so proud of them, and why I’m proud of you.
Just by being here and reading this it means you have that same fire still burning inside of you.
One common trait of people that have long term success is that they have learned how to handle adversity and change. When change comes, or is needed, they have learned to focus on what they have to gain, rather than what they have to give up.
Essentially, they are optimistic.
This isn’t to deny that they have grief or pain, but they manage to find the light in the midst of the darkness.
In finding this light, they discover that it isn’t an external “secret fix” or “recipe for success” that they somehow stumble upon. What they learn is that the light is internal. That the more they look inside themselves, the more they will find happiness and contentment. As Jung said, “who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens.”
In my own process of awakening I was blessed to have mentors that helped, and are still helping me, along the journey. It’s why I have chosen to serve women the way I do. Helping to release others from the burdens of self-judgment, living in a body they don’t love, and from the mental is what I am here to do.
My journey isn’t over, it never will be. Neither will yours.
But when you’re ready to begin, find a mentor to help you. Maybe that’s me, maybe it’s someone else. It doesn’t matter as long as you begin the journey.
You’re too valuable to spend another day living inside the dark cage.
Remember, I’m proud of you….now you go be proud of you.